5 lies everyone wants you to believe

I’m going to hang up this phone, and then I’m going to show these people what you don’t want them to see. I’m going to show them a world without you. A world without rules and controls, without borders or boundaries. A world where anything is possible. Where we go from there is a choice I leave to you.
— NEO

You take the blue pill—the story ends, you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill—you stay in Wonderland, and I show you how deep the rabbit hole goes. Remember: all I'm offering is the truth. Nothing more.

How many lies do you believe?

Do you remember the movie "The Matrix"? It was the movie that revolutionized the way I thought. In high school it is such a struggle to find out who you are anyway, but then you encounter a movie that assures you that everything in life is a lie. How profound and impactful.

Any movie, book, quote, or action that challenges me to think differently is what I am always looking for. I am and always will be on a pursuit for truth...in all areas of my life. Are you? I want you to be, and I want you to join the 360manproject.

Part of joining the 360manproject though is changing the way you think, the way you act, and the way that you navigate life. It is about transcending societal norms, challenging the status quo, standing up to legalism, and pushing yourself to a new level. Sound like something you are interested in? Awesome, glad to have you.

One of the biggest areas that we deal with (quite possibly the most prolific) is the issue of debt. In fact, I am working behind the scenes right now on making an EBook called "Financial Freedom". In the book, I will approach the topic of debt and finance in a new and refreshing way.

It will be comprehensive and easy for anyone to understand. I care so deeply about this because I know that it causes so much tension and unwanted conflict and pain in a persons life, and it carries over to all other areas. I can't wait to share it with you.

Let's get back to the topic of this post. The 5 lies that everyone wants you to believe. So what are they?

First of all, what is a lie? The definition of a lie (according to dictionary.com) is:

Now that we understand what a lie is, we can begin to get some awareness of exactly which lies we are believing.

  1. That you need everything right now
  2. That you have to go into debt to pay for things
  3. That you are stuck where you are
  4. That you will never get in shape
  5. That you can't do something

You need everything right now

This is really nothing new, we know deep down that we don't need everything right now. Everyday we wake up, we want to be different, we want to change a habit, or a routine, anything to make a positive impact in our lives.

What really ends up happening though? From the second we wake up to right when we go to bed, we let others impact our day. We are constantly marketed to, from the news, radio, the internet, subscriptions, telemarketers. You name it. There is positive marketing, and then there is the other 95%. The 95% wants you to believe that you can't live without certain things, they use fear, vanity, greed, and jealousy to lure you in.

Fitness magazines, and other companies play on your desire to be fit, and offer up suggestions and get fit quick plans, there is a new one everyday. We buy it, because we want to be fit right now.

Banks and other financial institutions tell us to use their tools and mortgage lenders, and barely offer .01% interest in your checking account. Congratulations you earned one penny in interest over the past quarter!! Yet, we buy it.

Ads on the internet are targeted specifically at men, just begging to be clicked. Do you know why these certain ads are so appealing? They are designed by men, for men.

The reality, is that we don't need everything right away, what we need is a plan, so that when we get bombarded with distractions, telling us that all of the solutions to our life's problems are found in a 30 day workout program, a one time investment, or a one night stand, we don't buy in.

The correct name for wanting and desiring everything now, is called; instant gratification. The desire to experience pleasure or fulfillment without delay or deferment.It's like the J.G. Wentworth commercial "It's my money and I want it now!", except we can replace the "money" with anything.

How do we delay this desire to want? There are a few proven methods:

  1. What are my values?
    • What is important to me?
    • Does this align with my goals and who I want to be?
  2. Opportunity/Cost Analysis
    • Is there a better deal somewhere else?
    • Would my money be better put to use somewhere else?
    • Should I try it first to see if I even like it?
  3. Wait
    • I don't really need this
    • Last years Christmas items are this years garage sale items!
    • Sometimes just sleeping on it, will help your mind to clear.

 Debt

Debt

You need to go into debt to pay for things

Going right along with wanting stuff right now, and needing to have some sort of instant gratification, we end up paying for things we can't afford.

Dave Ramsey has a quote that he says often, that was also said in the movie Fight Club.

"We buy things we don't need,with money we don't have, to impress people we don't like"

Why do we think we need to go into debt? It is a lie that has been weaved into the fabric of our culture. Quite frankly it is exhausting, and it makes me cringe, to know that I bought into it.

Will you help me combat this pandemic? Will you say, enough is enough? Is today finally going to be the day you change the course of your life?

  1. Start by finding out how much you owe?
    • What is your Net Worth?
    • Was it what you thought?
  2. Start believing that debt is not an option
    • There is always another way
    • Make a budget

That you are stuck where you are

Have you ever felt like you're stuck? Like nothing is working? That there is just no hope, no future? Me too.

If you want to change whats going on around you, ask God to change whats going on within you.

Usually being stuck means that we have just come to a wall. It could be a wall in our thinking, it could be our attitude, a physical limitation, or a financial burden. Think of this wall as a jigsaw puzzle, or a math problem. The trick is to approach it differently than you have before.

"We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them"
- Einstein

  1. Take a time out (It's ok to breathe)
  2. Time to exercise your mind and your body
                                                       Garbage in = Garbage out

                                                      Garbage in = Garbage out

 Get in Shape

Get in Shape

That you will never get in shape

Have you or someone else told you this? Most of the time these words come from our own dialogue. Whether it was a failed attempt at exercise that made you believe it, or an ongoing struggle with food. You are not alone.

The truth is that you can get in shape, it just takes a plan and a commitment. It's about making small daily habits that stick, and a resolutuion that today is the day that you are going to change your life.

The motivations are going to be different for each person.You need to figure out what your motivations are. How do I do that you might ask? Good question, we thought you might ask that so we came up with a way to help you determine what will motivate you to change.

"Do something today that your future self will thank you for"
- Unknown

Here are a list of questions to help you. Answer these honestly and truthfully. Think about your answers. Then, if you are truly ready to change, we want to know about it, and we have some resources to help you.

  1. Do you look in the mirror and feel frustrated, upset, or humiliated because of how your body looks?
  2. If your fitness has deteriorated over the years, how do you explain the fact that you’re in worse shape than when you were younger but haven’t changed your habits at all?
  3. Are you ready to spend less time with people who offer little or no social support for your goals while spending more time with those who do offer support?
  4. Can you accept responsibility for the way your body is today and understand that, while your old habits don’t make you a bad person, they still need to be changed?
  5. If a friend or loved one suggests that you don’t have what it takes to get into great shape because you’ve failed before or for some other reason, what will be your response?
  6. Are you willing to wake up in the morning a bit earlier and stay up at night a bit later to accomplish your goals?
  7. Are you willing to join a gym or start exercising today?

"Don't develop a case of mephobia"

 Truth

Truth

That you can't do something

I would have been a millionaire at age 14 if everytime someone said told me I couldn't do something, I would have got a dollar.

Someone will always speak to you from the boundaries of their own limitations. If they havn't done it or can't do it, then neither can you.

Here is a secret. Really, the only limitations that you have, are the ones that you put on yourself.

"I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength"
- Phillipians 4:13

If there is one thing that we like to say it's, "well, I used to..."

  • Run faster
  • Lift more
  • Weigh less
  • Be more active
  • The list goes on and on...

  • What are you doing now?

     

    It's ok to bring up the past, just don't stay there.

    - Stephen