Teach yourself to be uncomfortable...and stay there

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The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers.
— M. Scott Peck

Yesterday I worked out at 3 pm.

I haven't worked out that late in almost 2 years. 

My schedule has shifted, and I am now working 5am - 2pm. 

To me, the working hours are of little importance since waking up early has become a way of life. But the truth is, I have become spoiled.

The Navy SEAL's have a saying: "If you're in a good situation,  don't worry it'll change. If you're in a bad situation,  don't worry it'll change"

 

THE PROBLEM

I have become comfortable, yeah me, the guy who talks about getting out of comfortable situations. So, I get to eat my feedback.

I'm glad. Now it's time to adapt and overcome. 

It's time for a game plan. 

The problem before me is one that so many people have. How do I find the time to exercise, how do I work around the million other things that I have going on in my life?

It is easy to become discouraged when faced with an inconvenient task, or seemingly challenging situation. My body and mind will always try and get me to take the easier path, that negative voice is always the first one to speak up.

Have you ever noticed that the loudest person in the room, is usually the weakest? Well, its the same with that voice in your head. It is the weakest, but it puffs itself up pretty good, to make sure that everyone knows its there. It's like the male peacock attracting all the attention of the females. In this case, the voice you hear is going to be the one you feed the most.

When this voice starts sounding like Macho Man Randy Savage inside our heads (Ohhhh Yeahhhh!!), it is usually saying the same things. That's something else about these loud negative voices in our head, they are what the hacker world calls Script Kiddies. In other words, they only know a few things, that they borrow from someone else. There is nothing creative about them, and they are very predictable.

Since they are predictable, it is easy for us to identify them and break them down.

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The 3 reasons the voices in your head use to prevent you from Exercising.

 

MY SPOUSE OR FAMILY MEMBER IS NOT SUPPORTIVE

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No one is going to make exercising a priority more than you will.

It is more important to you than it ever will be for someone else. When it comes to you working out or spending time with them, they will always choose spending time over your health. It's nothing against them, they just won't understand.

You might even start to feel guilty for not being home with them, or maybe they will make you feel guilty.

I have experienced both, and the truth is. Its just in your head. Epictetus said it best in his book The Enchiridion"Men are disturbed, not by things, but by the principles and notions which they form concerning things."

We make little things seem catastrophic or mountain moving evolution's. It's pretty ridiculous really. We get so worked up over the motion of doing something that we never get around to actually doing it.

If your family members or spouse cannot support you in your endeavors to stay physically fit, then maybe it's because of several reasons.

  1. The don't take you seriously.
  2. They are slightly jealous and don't want to see you succeed
  3. They want to be included

THEY DON'T TAKE YOU SERIOUSLY

How many times before have you said you were going to get in shape, or do anything for that matter only to crash and burn at every attempt? When your family member or spouse calls you out on it, or ask you why you are eating something, your response is..."Because I want it!" Does this sound familiar?

Or maybe you set out to start working out, but you don't change anything else in your life. You still eat whatever you want, or drink whatever you want. Or maybe you just go to the gym and sit in the sauna and walk around the track a couple times. You don't see results...so you quit.

Think about it, do you even take yourself seriously? Are you putting in any sort of effort?

Your family members see it, your spouse sees it. They don't take you seriously, because you aren't serious. You're not committed. Don't be upset with them. 

Quit making excuses and get seriously committed to getting healthy.

THEY ARE SLIGHTLY JEALOUS AND DON'T WANT TO SEE YOU SUCCEED

This one is my favorite. There will always be someone telling you not to do something, or trying to prevent you from reaching your goals. If it is someone close to you, its even worse.

When Mandy (My wife) and I decided we wanted to pay off our debt, we came up with a plan and shared it with some of our family. We had set a goal that we wanted to pay off all debt ($55K), and pay $1000.00 a month towards decreasing it. 

Most of our family and friends thought we were crazy, they told us it was impossible to pay $1000/month. They didn't believe us. I've got to be honest with you. There were times we wanted to quit. What pushed us though, was people telling us we couldn't, and because we wanted to have financial freedom.

It took us 2.5 years, and the whole time we didn't do too much, but we didn't. Then everyone was wanting to know how we did it.

Your spouse might not understand what it means to you, or she might just be slightly jealous that you are choosing to do that with your free time...If you have any.

I don't have a whole lot of free time, so I workout at 4:30 am. No one is awake and it doesn't cut into my family time. To me it's worth it, and it is, I believe, the key to living a healthy successful life. Remember what I said about success?

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If your spouse is jealous, find out what is really going on. You may have to alter your workout schedule, that is not favorable to you. That is the goal. Do something that is not favorable to you, because you will grow from it. If it's not convenient or easy, even better. Eventually it will be easy to you, because you will have formed a habit, and grown from the process.

When something else challenging comes along, you will know how to approach it. Straight through the middle. Don't look for a way out. Robert Frost (American Poet) said it best; "The best way out is always through."

THEY WANT TO BE INCLUDED

Sometimes your spouse or family members just want to be included. They want to make getting in shape a priority just as much as you do. This doesn't mean that you have to change your workout routine to accommodate them, it just means that this is one more way for you to grow closer together.

Mandy and I had this same thing going on. She was training for a 5K and I was training for a half-marathon. We would go to the gym and do about 20-30 minutes of circuit training, then we would run different distances for our training. We didn't talk much, but we loved seeing the improvements, and were there to push one another.

It is really neat having a person in your family that you can exercise with, who is developing the same winning mindset as you are. The reality is...Physical exercise makes you a more energetic, disciplined, healthy person. After a workout your mind is sharper, your endorphin's are kicking in, and you feel good about yourself. When you feel good...you look good...and when you look good...you have confidence.

Don't let your spouse or family member sit on the sidelines. Ask them to work out with you. I ask my daughters if they want to make their bodies stronger. That seems to work. However, you do it, don't stop asking.

Are you looking for a Couch to 5K Running Program or a 30 Day Fitness Program?

 

I DON'T SEE RESULTS

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Here is a pro tip.

Don't ever look at the scale. Stop weighing yourself. It really isn't that important. 

Everyone wants a quick fix, but they immediately look for an external change. The real change that happens from one single workout is internal. It is happening where you can't see it. The results will become apparent in no time. Just stick to the program. It works!

If you really want to see results with an exercise program, there are two very important things that a person needs to consider. But even before those two things are addressed there are some questions that you need to ask yourself.

  1. Am I going to stay committed to this program for at least 12 weeks?
  2. Am I going to change my eating habits to become a catalyst in my journey?
  3. What is my Goal? (weight loss, muscle gain, etc..) for the sake of our conversation let's say it is weight loss and muscle tone.

12 WEEK PROGRAM

I am telling you as a friend, that this is the best time-frame to see real results, defining, life altering results. If your goal is weigh loss and muscle tone, then this is what you need to commit to. 

At around 8 weeks, your body will start to change, you will notice a reduction in wast size and probably some weight off around the face and belly. At 12 weeks your life will change. You will love the new skin you're in and will want to tell everyone that they too can do what you did.

The trick is choosing the right plan, and of course, eating healthy.

EATING HABITS

I'm not going to beat you up with facts about food and nutrition, but I can tell you that it is about 85-90% about what you eat. The trick or knack is to eat as close to natural as possible. Lot's of meat, eggs, veggies, and rice and potatoes. Avoid sweets and fried foods. Pizza is also another one to stay away from. Pizza is great once a week or so, and you should only have maybe 2-3 slices. (depending on the size of the pizza.)

Personally, I eat pretty much eat as close to Paleo as possible, and only eat out maybe once a month. I love cooking at home, so most of what I make is healthier than something I could get anywhere else. If you are looking for a great easy home-cooked meal check out the article on Chicken Tortilla Soup.

WHAT IS YOUR GOAL?

I once heard someone say "Start with the end in mind." In other words, where do you want to go? What type of person do you want to be? What kind of physical shape do you want to be in?

Not sure where to start with Goals? Download our FREE Goal Setting guide.

 

I DON'T HAVE TIME

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Finding the time to workout is not the issue, using the time you have is.

Murphy's law states: "There's never time to do it right, but there's always time to do it over."

There is never a right time to workout, there is never a perfect opportunity. The longer we wait for that moment the harder it will be. Instead of waiting to be perfect or have everything in place, or wait for the "New Year" or "Monday". Just start, it doesn't have to be pretty or super structured. Just do something.

Then, you will have time to do it again, and again, and again. Remember the saying, "Practice makes perfect?" It's true, repetition is how someone learns and grows at something.

I am an engineer, I wasn't super great at math, but I would do the homework problems 3 times each, so that I would just know them so well, that any problem that I got, I was able to solve quickly. However, I also developed an understanding of how to apply that method to more complex problems. Through repetition I came up with a way to approach every problem methodically and step by step.

It's the same thing with exercising. Repetition. Consistency.

We have such a problem staying focused on one thing for too long, we lack consistency.

Benjamin Hardy, said the best way to measure someones IQ in today's age is by their attention span. Hmmm, he might be right!

Focused effort on one thing at a time will yield far better results than trying to do two or more things at the same time.

Time is your greatest and most valuable commodity. You can't buy anymore than you already have, there is nothing you can do to earn it. You have a limited number of minutes and they are running out every second. Don't waste those precious minutes wishing you were exercising and healthy. Use them to make your body and mind stronger, which, will in turn translate into all other areas of your life.

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I wish I could just beat this concept into everyone's head. It always seems like a chore to exercise, and it's the last thing everyone wants to do. However, it is the one thing that you can do that will catapult you forward and give you the energy, strength and mindset to do all of the other things that you want to do or accomplish in this life. Don't overlook this.

  • If want to write more....Exercise!!
  • If you want to have the energy to take care of your kids...Exercise!!
  • If you want to be successful in the marketplace...Exercise!!
  • If you are feeling depressed...Exercise!

In the words of Charlie Sheen...WINNING!!!

Winning pays. Losing has consequences. Nothing substitutes for preparation. Life isn’t fair and neither is the battlefield. Even the smallest detail matters.
— Rorke Denver
 

I want to applaud you for reading all of this article. I know I can be long winded...

In case you just scrolled to the bottom, here are the big takeaways:

  • Get uncomfortable - it's good for you, and it will grow you.
  • Start working out now.
  • Three reasons that prevent you from exercising
    1. My spouse or family member is not supportive
    2. I don't see results
    3. I don't have time

 

What is preventing you from exercising? What are you going to do to deal with it?

If you are currently working out, what strategies or tips have you employed that have helped you?

Let me know in the comments below.

 

-Stephen