The Art of the Start: Why Failing and Flailing is Better than Doing Nothing


For the past couple of months, I have been doing something Top Secret.

Something that not a lot of people know about.

Before I tell you though, you need to know a couple of things.

Wake-up call

I used to be overweight. I used to be in debt. I used to be miserable.

For years I would tell myself that I needed to get my finances under control. Months would go by and I would continue to tell myself that I should exercise.

But I didn’t. Every passing day, I became more and more in debt, and less healthy.

It started to affect my mood, my energy level, and the way that I treated other people.

It seemed that no matter what I did, I couldn’t break free. I tried doing one of those mail away exercise routines. I just couldn’t stay consistent.


The something happened. One night I came home from work at 2 in the morning. I broke down in the den of my house. I just couldn’t take it anymore.

Right then and there, I started to change. Something in me had come alive. I had the makings of a great life, something everyone would look at and think I had it all together. The truth is, I was a mess.

What Happened next?

I started a Blog called Violent Kingdom Man, where I wrote about some ideals, then I flopped around on it for a while but it wasn’t going where I wanted it to go.

But I had the courage to start.

Sure, it was horrible writing, and I didn’t really understand how to blog or what to write about.

Then it evolved into the early days of the 360ManProject, which started picking up traction.


I am glad that I didn’t give up.

It might not be where I want it, but at least I started.


Now the 360ManProject has become a life source for me, I love writing and creating more and more content. I also know that it has helped several men. I get emails of men telling me how it has impacted their life.

That makes it all worth it.

The truth is, I don’t really know where this is going to end up, but I am glad I started.


This is the lesson that I have learned from that moment in my den, to now:

You have to START.

You might not have the best equipment, or have all of the answers. If you are like me (nerdy), I like to collect information. I spend a lot of time reading, learning, developing, and thinking about ideas.

We like to spend a lot of time analyzing, and spend less time doing.

  • Step 1 is information gathering
  • Step 2 is ACTION
  • Step 3 is results or Profit.

The difference between successful people and everyone else is that successful, ambitious achieving people live in Step 2. They understand that Step 1 is about 10% of the process and Step 2 is 85% of the process.


5 years ago I started out on a Fitness Journey. I was 30# overweight, and $55,000 in debt.

  • I started, paying off my debt, saving every dollar I had, watching where every dollar went, and doing extra jobs or selling stuff to make money to pay it off. I thought it would never be accomplished.
  • I started, working out, exercising, waking up early, lifting weights and fueling my body the right way. It was slow going, I would look in the mirror and know that I had a lot of work to do. I kept at it, and eventually I accomplished one goal after another.
  • I started, a website and it was awful, it evolved and became something I am very proud of. I am learning by failing and the website continues to grow and be a life source

Flash Forward to now.

Remember the Top Secret thing I said I have been doing?

Well, it is that I have been doing CrossFit and have been meeting with a Coach (Ben) every Monday night for the past couple of months and now I am going to be competing in the CrossFit Open.

It’s one of my 100 Impossible Lifetime Goals. If I look back 5 years ago, it seemed impossible for me to be where I am at. I paid off all my debt, and you are reading this here on my website.

I recently did my first muscle-up, and my coach (Ben), filmed the progression of this, so that I could see how far I have come.


As you can see when I first started, it was not so good, the mechanics were off, I was trying to do it my way. The form is sloppy and it took me about 1 million tries. My hands were bleeding and split open (this happened several times.) but I was relentless.

Just like in life, anything you START is going to be rough at first, sloppy. People might laugh at you or be better than you, but they are not YOU. Only you are YOU. If you keep at something you will get better. It’s inevitable.


This brings me to my point

I love seeing people start new things. It makes me happy to see that they are struggling and working through problems to enhance their life. It lets me know that they are not happy with the status quo and they are fighting the good fight.

I love knowing that people are pursuing their dreams or passions and striking out on their own, whether it’s a photography business or woodworking, or starting a website. Whatever it is, it’s awesome to see.

The truth is that you know what you need to do, you know that you need to START.

Remember, you don’t have to have it all together, or all figured out, you just have to try.



What in your life do you need to start?

I want you to go to my CONTACT page and send me an email. Let me know what you are going to start within the next 2 days. How can I help?