Top 15 movies about Alpha males: Learn to be confident, quiet and strong

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I know, I know, not another Alpha Male post, right?

In all honesty, I don’t agree with a lot of the things that are posted about Alpha males, but I don’t necessarily agree with most things that people post or put into videos on YouTube.

For example, I don’t think that Alpha Males are only interested in hooking up with women. In fact, most Alpha’s by definition are extremely difficult to live with and be around, because their whole lives are focused on working, making money and being the best at what they do. They are obsessed.

So, to think that they are like these playboys that only pursue women and having a laid back lifestyle is a huge misnomer.

By contrast, they are hard working individuals who are obsessed with winning and dominating in the work force. They are the CEO’s of businesses, the Guys that make stuff happen. They hurt feelings, step on toes, don’t mince words and bulldoze. They do not waver, hate to lose and compromise, and don’t change their positions. It’s not personal, it’s just business.

Whether we like it or not, these men are needed.

A good representation of this type of man is Red Bama in the TV series “Shooter”

He is extremely dominant and very motivated in making money, running his business and being in the action. As dishonest as his character is, I still can’t help but respect him and laugh at just how appropriate I believe some of the things he says are.

However, I don’t believe that every man has to be like this, instead, I believe there are certain elements of each of the men in the movies that are listed below that we can all learn from and adopt into our own masculine repertoire.

Some men think they need to be exactly like a certain “type”, but the truth is, there is no one size fits all, and every man has flaws, and shortcomings.

There are however, certain behaviors that men can possess that will help them to become more confident and appealing.

Alpha Traits

  • Make eye contact

  • Stand tall, shoulders back

  • Speak Clearly

  • Deal with problems calmly and head on

  • Set goals

  • Don’t leave room for self doubt

  • Take action

  • Don’t be afraid to fail

These are the traits that the men in all of the movies listed possess, some more than others, and with different degrees

Here we go!

Fight Club

If there is one thing that we can learn from Fight Club, its that people, and this culture are obsessed with consumerism. In fact the first time that I watched this was when I was around 16 or 17 years old, and even then Edward Norton’s characters obsession with stuff like matching tables and chairs, made me think he was a weenie.

Why? Because what kind of dude cares about that stuff?

I mean really. Sure, it’s nice to look good, but when it becomes the focal point for a man to obsess about, it’s time to do some self examination.

Even now, there are men’s fashion websites, and advice on how to grow a beard. Don’t take this the wrong way, but who cares about the type of hairspray you use, or the beard oil that you put on to help you grow a long lush beard?

Too me, it’s just another way to take the focus of the inner man, and the importance of grooming the character, not the outside structure.

Just my opinion, but what makes a man is not his shoes, beard, khakis, iPhone, or watch. It’s his word, and the consistent action and discipline that he has to make himself better physically, mentally and spiritually day in and day out.

KNockaround Guys

This is probably one of my favorite fight scenes and reminds me of some of the neanderthals that I grew up with.

I assume that if you had been in 500 fights, you would definitely know a thing or two about what it means to be tough.

You have heard that 10,000 hours makes you an expert, but if you have watched a UFC fight they are typically three, five minute rounds. If you did that 500 times, it would be a total of 7500 minutes, which is the equivalent of 125 hours.

Most UFC fighters have fought way more than that with all of the practice and extra fights they have.

They are fighting experts, and now we know what it takes. With that being said.

If you want to get better at fighting, you have to get in fights.


You don’t have to say anything at all, to be effective. You just have to be confident in who you are.

Men who constantly blabber on an d on about how good they are, or how many girls they have had sex with, or how many beers they drank at the BBQ, are for lack of a better term…”idiotic”.

Keep your mouth shut, and let yourself be invisible. It speaks volumes.


Probably the greatest speech ever given on the battlefield. The question William asks, as he reminds the men that they are free, is what are they going to do with their freedom?

We have to fight for our freedom, because every day, someone or something is encroaching on it.

Taxation, Social Media, Businesses, healthcare. The battles are still being fought, bought much more subtle and under the radar.

What is your freedom worth to you?


This one is a classic.

The first option is to be nice, then if you have to, you fight.

Dalton is the Alpha at the Double Deuce. He not only comes in and cleans house, but he teaches the guys to work together.

His steady cool and calm character is something that could be duplicated. The best scene is when the bar is going wild and he just sits back and watches before he comes up with a plan.


Want to be a great man. Learn to be a great leader and motivator.

This is one of the most inspiring scenes that I have ever seen in a movie. The leadership that this man used to show his team how much a person can push themselves is incredible.

Just like this kid had more in him, you also have more in you. There is a giant inside of you waiting to be released.

In Good Company

This one might come as a surprise to some of you, but I thought that Dennis Quaid’s character was an excellent portrayal of how a man should be in the workplace and at home.

One particular instance in this movie was when he was questioning the new CEO of the company he worked for. There were a bunch of layoffs happening and the workplace was changing, but he remained the same guy despite everything, and still stood up and questioned what was happening.

The crowds response is interesting. Just proves that you can fool all people some of the time, but you can’t fool all the people all the time.

Men of Honor

I must have watched this movie 200 times when I was younger. Gregory Peck does a great job as a quiet, humble alpha male.

  • He protects an innocent man

  • He shoots a dog with rabies

  • He takes care of his two kids alone

  • He doesn’t let others opinions persuade him

  • He’s intelligent and gracious

Take a note of his voice, mannerisms, posture, and tone.



Hands down one of my favorite scenes from this Show. Lieutenant Speirs is a go-getter, quiet and fearless, and quickly captures the attention and respect of his soldiers.

No regard for his own life, but ultimately only cares about the lives of his men, and accomplishing the mission.

A Perfect World

Although Costner’s character is a convict, there is a lot that can be gained from this scene.

Costner is not the boy’s dad, but treats him like he is his son, and tells the boy exactly the right things and the right time to instill confidence and reinforce masculinity.

Boys are wild-men, and they want to be known for that. When a dad tells his son he is strong, brave and his pecker is just fine, that is like music to a boys ears.


Remember the Titans

If something is not right, don’t stand idly by and let it go on. Step up and say something even if you are scrutinized and ostracized.

Have the courage to stand up to racism, injustice, and evil.

“The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.” ― Edmund Burke

Good Will Hunting

Don’t ever let anyone one talk down to you, especially someone with a degree from Harvard or Yale.

I love this scene, because some chump at the bar is trying to make another guy feel stupid and inadequate because he thinks he is better, and somehow he turns it into a discussion about economics.

But….Will is wicked smart, and sizes the situation up pretty good, and demolishes this guy with brilliance.

How do you like them apples?

Top Gun

What can I say.

Cool, calm, Collected.

This scene is perfect. Maverick was hitting on the flight instructor the night before, but didn’t know she was an instructor.

Then she walks in and talks aircraft theory, to which maverick let’s her know that she is wrong. See, this is great for two reasons.

  • Maverick asserts his position with confidence, charm, and cockiness

  • He doesn’t back off just because he likes the flight instructor

This attitude makes him even more attractive to her.


Know your name.

That’s it.

Know who you are, who’s you are, and where you come from.

Passion of the Christ

For me, there is no greater Alpha Male than Jesus.

This scene proves it.

There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. - John 15:13

If you read the gospel, you will see that Jesus never committed a crime, or did any wrong. However, by claiming that he was the son of God, he became a huge target.

Imagine making that claim, and then living it out.

If he was faking it, then why all of the punishment? You would think that he would spill his guts the second he was about to get tortured.

Instead, he endured this punishment, for you and me, for a purpose much bigger than anyone could ever imagine.

  • He never complained

  • He never uttered a single word when beaten

  • He never quit

But he was pierced for our transgressions,
he was crushed for our iniquities;
the punishment that brought us peace was on him,
and by his wounds we are healed. - Isaiah 53:5

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