How a man can be a warrior even when he thinks that he is a lost cause

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I have been turned down for job promotions or other positions seven times in the last year.

I understand rejection, and have felt it many times in my life, and will continue to have it happen I’m sure.

Most men have probably felt the pain of rejection, or the frustration from getting passed up for a promotion or different position. I’m not really different than any other man.

The problem with this is when we as men let it consume us, or we dwell on it, and wrap our identity up in it. Or, we think we deserve it.

The truth is maybe we do, but we didn’t get it, and now we have to learn to move on.

There was a man in history who was meant to be king, but had to wait a very long time before it could come to pass.

It started when he was chosen as a shepherd boy.

David was the least of his brothers, and the one who tended the flocks. When Samuel was instructed to go to Bethlehem to choose one of Jesse’s sons to be king, he immediately saw the oldest son Eliab, observed that he was tall strong and handsome and thought “Surely, this is the Lords anointed!”

He was wrong, and he was wrong 7 times, for David the ruddy little kid was the one who would be king.

Why him?

Because he had a heart that was only concerned with pleasing God, not people, or anything else. That was his sole purpose. Not only that but, he was concerned about the flock that he took care of, and even went toe to toe with a lion and bear, just to get one sheep back.

David didn’t need reassurance that God was on his side. He simply understood it, and realized where his everything came from.

He did not immediately become king though. He spent many years as a servant, then as a fugitive on the run, and fought many battles.

So David left Gath and took refuge in the cave of Adullam. When his brothers and the rest of his father’s household heard about it, they went down to him there. And all who were distressed or indebted or discontented rallied around him, and he became their leader. About four hundred men were with him.

David was a warrior, and a leader. He held on to the promise that God had given him, and did not try to rush that calling, or make it on his own.

He did suffer much heartache, and even wrote about it.

I recently watched this video of Westside Barbell, and was struck by the type of men that joined this amazing brotherhood. It reminded me of the type of men that went to be with David, the same type of men that God is looking for. Not because they have it all together, but because of who they are at the core of their being.

Listen and watch closely at the 3:05 - 5:00 minute mark. There is some language, so if you are offended, then you shouldn’t watch. (Personally, it doesn’t bother me)

This blog recently made the Top 30 Christian Men’s Blogs and Websites to Follow, and I couldn’t be more proud. The reason I am so happy is because although I have had rejection other places, the one place where hard work has really paid off is through writing and blogging.

This blog started several years back, as just a prompting that God had given me. Since then, it has just been coming together little by little. I just figured as long as I continue to move forward that the rest will fall into place. That’s pretty much what has happened.

Just like David as a shepherd boy, it doesn’t matter what the occupation you have is, or whether it is even a job, the truth remains the same. Do your best at everything you do, regardless of whether you receive praise, accolades or a reward.

Those things all come second to doing what it is that you have been instructed to do.

Work hard so you can present yourself to God and receive his approval. Be a good worker, one who does not need to be ashamed and who correctly explains the word of truth. -2 Timothy 2:15

This also isn’t like most christian blogs. I’m not a super emotional guy, and neither is this website. I believe that Christian men should be healthy, and put an emphasis on physical fitness, and living out their faith by being open about their spirituality, and not being cowards in the face of opposition.

I also believe that Christian men should absolutely take a stance on what they believe, and not shy away from it. They also need to take responsibility of themselves and not blame circumstances, or life situations, for the problems that they face.

That’s what David did.

He definitely made mistakes, and even messed up big time when he slept with his friends wife. (Yikes!). Then his other friend Nathan called him out on it, and he realized he had really messed up.

Mistakes happen, but we shouldn’t stay there. The key to the Christian man’s life, is in moving forward, to constant improvement.

Not only that, but living an examined life.

What does it mean to live an examined life?

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Living the examined life is taking time to be alone and ask questions about the direction you are headed, the character that you have developed, and if you are the person that you want to become.

Most people do not do this.

They run their mouths so much, that they don’t ever actually listen to what they are saying, or they are constantly with other people that they never really learn who they are.

Or, better yet, a little story for you.

The other night Mandy and I took our girls to gymnastics. As we were sitting on the bleachers watching them we couldn’t help but notice that out of the 20 other parents sitting there, 14 of them were on their phones or tablets. Some of them had a phone and a tablet (Double device-ing it)

It’s almost sad, and semi repulsive.

David, actually pointed out what an examined life looks like, and documented it in the book of psalms. He says:

Search me, O God, and know my heart;
test me and know my anxious thoughts.
Point out anything in me that offends you…

-Psalm 139:23-24

Not only is David thinking about what he might be doing that is not right, he asks God to test him, and reveal the weaknesses, insecurities, and imperfections in his character.

As men, this is exactly the type of posture we should be taking. It’s not enough to think you have it all together, or to go through life without stopping to take stock of what’s really important. You have to be deliberate about it.

You have to want to be who you were made to be.

A call to action for men

If I didn’t leave you with any homework, what good would this be. In order to move forward, and take action, you have to complete some tasks, and take them seriously.

  • Read Psalm 139, and ask God the same questions David asks.

  • Write down the things that come to you.

    • Examples might be:

      • Pornography

      • Alcohol

      • Sex

      • Not spending time with family

      • Selfishness

      • Talking too much

  • Pick one, and write out an action plan of what you can do to start turning it around and strengthening your character.