The 5 biggest regrets every man must learn to avoid

The 5 biggest regrets every man must learn to avoid

My car recently broke down on the side of the road.

I tried to call a couple people to come and get me, but it’s pretty typical that when you really need someone they aren’t available.

It’s Murphy’s law.

Instead of waiting it out, or going through my phone contacts, I popped open the trunk, grabbed my boots and my rucksack, and walked home.

It was only about 2.5 miles, but it was a great time to get a workout in, and also think about my life, as I often do. Us introverts love to think, internalize and self-reflect. It’s what we do best.

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The Comparison Trap: Why a Man Does it, and Who he Should Really be Comparing Himself too.

The Comparison Trap: Why a Man Does it, and Who he Should Really be Comparing Himself too.

What's the number one thing that most guys ask each-other when they first meet?

"So, what do you do?"

This question can make a man shake in his boots, especially if he is already uncomfortable with his masculinity and how he provides for his family.

He doesn't need to be though, unless of course he is a dirt-bag, who lives and leaches off of other people. 

I actually despise this question, mainly because we have come to use it as a way to compare ourselves to other men, from the answer that we get we make assumptions and judgments about social status, money, success, and manhood.

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The Reasons Why Every Man Needs to Have a Fortress of Solitude or Bat Cave: Recharge and Develop your Manliness

The Reasons Why Every Man Needs to Have a Fortress of Solitude or Bat Cave: Recharge and Develop your Manliness

There will always be a constant struggle between the man that society and outside influences tell you to be and the man that you were made to be.

The man that others want you to be does these things:

  • Compares himself to others

  • Worries about what others think

  • Walks on eggshells - (Afraid to be himself in fear of people not "liking" him)

  • Manipulates others to get his way - (By means of guilt or other underhanded tactics)

  • Has low self esteem

  • Finds his worth in money, possessions, work or women

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Testosterone 101: 5 things that decrease it, 10 ways that you can increase it, and why you need to do it.

Testosterone 101: 5 things that decrease it, 10 ways that you can increase it, and why you need to do it.

I didn’t really even understand what testosterone was until recently.

Yes, maybe it’s sad to admit, but honestly, I didn’t think that it was really something that I needed to think about.

I was wrong. There are some startling facts about men and testosterone that I believe every man needs to know, and tune into.

Something happened to me about 6 years ago, right after I had graduated college. I was depressed, lethargic, and slow. There was no way I could do anything, even if I wanted to. Physically, I wasn’t as strong, I was gaining weight.

All telltale signs of Low testosterone.

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How to Have Less in a World that Wants More: A Guide for Men Who Want to Have More Freedom

How to Have Less in a World that Wants More: A Guide for Men Who Want to Have More Freedom

I touched down at Narita airport on December 22nd, 2001. There was no snow, no greeting party, and no smiling faces of people I knew. It was just me, and the one bag I had.

I had just finished Intelligence Specialist “A” School back in Dam Neck Virginia at the Navy Marine Corps Intelligence Training Center (NMITC), and had been given my choice of 3 places to take orders. Sasebo Japan, Fallon Nevada, or Yokosuka Japan. I chose Yokosuka, because I wanted to be on an aircraft carrier (USS Kitty-Hawk).

The airport lost my bag. I didn’t speak Japanese at the time, but somehow the airport understood my dilemma and apologized profusely. They told me through broken English that they would bring my bag to me as soon as they found it.

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The death of the manly man: How it happened, and what we need to do to as men to fight back in a culture that tries to mold us

The death of the manly man: How it happened, and what we need to do to as men to fight back in a culture that tries to mold us

This is how manhood was taught to me.

In high school. I chewed tobacco, shot guns, floated rivers and camped in the woods.

Kids today hang out on their game systems, eat chips and converse through social media.

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Fix Your Character Before You Fix Your Hair: What Every Man Needs To Get Right

Fix Your Character Before You Fix Your Hair: What Every Man Needs To Get Right

You see it all the time. Dudes looking in mirrors and worrying about their hairstyles, or what shoes they are going to wear.

Who cares about all of that stuff, especially if you don't have character, grit, or resilience?

The stuff that really makes a man.

Our culture has it backwards. These articles that I see online of "the 10 best men's hairstyles" and "the best shoes for your first date".....Who gives a rats ass?

What's the foundation and infrastructure of your life like?

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Living a legacy: 5 Things Every Man Should Seek to Accomplish in his Life

Living a legacy: 5 Things Every Man Should Seek to Accomplish in his Life

Every man wants to be great.

He wants to leave a legacy, be remembered for something.

Unfortunately most of the time, that's as far as it goes, it's only a thought. Rarely do dreams become realities through thinking alone.

A man has to strive to take action on his dreams, and his goals. When he doesn’t he becomes lethargic, depressed, envious and restless. Things that lead to an early death.

Not necessarily a physical death, but a death within, a death of the spirit within him.

The light burns out.

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